Category: Dating and Relationships
Well, we were having a discussion on here earlier and were talking mainly about guys not ever spending money on new clothes for themselves, and these guys seemed to think that it didn’t matter what they looked like. Now in my view this goes beyond what you actually look like, because how you appear is something you can do something about, so girls, do you think that it makes a difference if a guy doesn’t bother to make the effort to look nice? And guys, do you think that how you look should affect how a girl perceives you?
Yes. I do think it makes a very big difference!!! If a guy doesn't care about how he appears to others, he has no self respect. And if he has no self respect, how can he expect others to respect and think well of him??? I love it when a guy takes time and makes himself presentable!!! It makes you feel that he's got class and that is something I look for in a guy!!! I think it's very important that a man cares how he is perceived. It really bothers me when speaking to some guys and finding out that they haven't bought new clothes in 2 or more years!!! How is it, that some guys just don't care about these things???
*sexy*
Oh, I feel so femininne now, but I totally agree with you girls. I do the same for first impression of girls actually. I don't ind the girl dressing confortably, say, around the house, but when you are going out, to work or just to meet friends or to a restaurant, you need to be suitably dressed. I am a huge Banana Republic fan and love their clothes, I trust a few of my friends and my family to help me make the selections. I buy clothes quite frequently and usually rather expensive ones. Working in the banking industry there are fairly strict dress code standards to begin with but I try to be a little less drab by wearing shirts with stripes or in fairly bright colors such as pink (not distasteful pink .. for men that is but dark pink colors, those suit me very well hehe or so my sighted friends say anyways, perhaps they're alughing behind my backhehe but I don't think they are that mean). I think if you meet someone who does not care about their appearance, be it their hair, their clothes or their physcail health, it's not a good indication for me. I want friends and especially a girl friend who is assertive, able to get things done and able to take care of me if I got sick or lost my job etc and someone who can't be bothered to even look presentable definitely gives me the first impression of not being such a person. With friends I'm not as judgementl of course but it all goes hand in hand really. I admire talent and assertiveness and self esteem and going out there to achieve what you are good at, that drive in people, that energy, and I think the way you dress reflects that attitude very well so if you can't be bothered about your clothing I think that says a lot about you.
Cheers
-B
I myself am not much on fashion or "style", as people put it. I do, however, wear clean clothing that's fairly new (no older than 200 centuries old). I won't ever shop for vanity, but I do shop for presenability.
I'm not much into the latest styles and what not... I'm usually bedecked in black, black+white, grey+black/white, dark blues with any of the above... very plain clothing, I know.
I will occasionally wear fansy clothing... but only to formal settings.
There's a difference between being in style and caring about what you wear. As long as what you wear is presentable, good-looking, and it all matches, I don't much see any problems with it.
And... Wildebrew: Pink? I'm not sure I could ever let myself be seen with even a smidgen of bright colours, much less pink, lol.
i agree wiht sexygirl. if you dont buy clothes well you can at least laundry them and do some personal grooming like cutting nails and fixing your hair. remember to also put some cologne on a first date. i like guys that spend time or at least little time to look good. yeah self respect and remember first impression last.
I believe in personal grooming as far as it goes. I'm talking about brushing my teeth, cut my nails if they need it, shave stuff like that. But I could care less what I'm wearing, and I could care less what others are wearing. Not doing things like that are either bothersome to myself or others and some of them not healthy not to do. but clothing to me is just something functional. You wear it to protect yourself from heat, cold, or getting hurt. Beyond that, I don't give a care for myself or others. Just my views.
i guess i'm just a tipical male! i couldn't give a rats arse about clothing! lol. sorry girls!
Well, I do believe that it's important to try and make yourself presentable. I want to be clean, and hope that what clothes I have are well laundered. It's important to buy new clothes when you need, and can afford, though for me that's not always as often as it could be. I actually spent my birthday money on new clothes because I felt it was the best use for it. My clothes are often very casual, stuff that I'm comfortable in, and probably not the most atractive, but I do believe that being clean is better than fashionable and dirty. *smile*
I understand that presentability is often more important to a woman, but I think that's probably because being that way makes them feel much better about themselves, if it was that important for us guys then maybe we'd be a lot luckier. lol
Kevin
I'm probably going to bring the rest of the girl contingent down on my head for this, but it doesn't really bother me how a guy dresses, and guys who primp regularly or obsess about the latest styles worry me a bit. I think that people should have their own sense of style rather than following all the fads just because they're there, so it tends to put me off a bit if a guy shows me up by having all the latest fashions. One of the most ambitious, driven guys I know is also one of the scruffiest, planest dressers, though he's never worked an office job with a dresscode which might have something to do with it. Hygene though, that's another matter entirely. How much effort is it really to keep you and your clothes clean? If a guy can't manage that, I think it does reflect on him as a person. Erin.
yes i have to agree with erin there! i don't care about clothing at all! but hygene is something that's extremely important to me! both for myself and anybody i was seeing!
if you smell then your ugly so far as i am concerned! lol.
Wow! I agree with Harp on this, if you smell, than you are ugly. eheheheeeeee, but as far as clothes go, I really have no preference, as long as he isn't whereing clothes that are holy, or stained, or grose looking, then I'm cool with what ever. He's got to smell good though. If a man smells bad, that's a turn off for me. Hey Guys, take showers, use dioderant, Put on calone, and shave, that's a sure bet. Believe it or not some guys have to be told these things! If a guy isn't clean, he has no self respect for himself. Chlothes, however, is no matter to me just as long as they're clean and decent.
I had the additute "that people should not judge me by my appearance." Now I believe that it is apparent that I look presentable because I never know who's going to be my future employer. Also I love to look good for my gf because I wanta make her proud of me not Embarrassed to be seen with me in public.
No, who cares, if they have a brilliant mind, that is all that matters. As long as they don't appear as if they just climbed out of a smelly dumpster, I am fine with it.
I know its not all about fashion and the latest trend for men, but at least look presentable and have good personal hygiene. It says a lot about a person. Were not even talking about physical appearance here, were just talking about looking neat. There's the right clothing for different occasions whether it be staying at home, going to work, hanging out with your friends or going to a formal dinner.
For me it's about functionality and the like. Don't show up to a job interview or go on a first date looking like a hobo...but if you're just going out to the bar with a few friends and your hair's a bit tousled because you were rousted out of a nap or because you forgot to put a brush to it, no one worth their salt's going to mind.
I am big on hygiene..teeth clean, skin clean, deodorant and the like. I wear cologne only rarely because if you wear too much or too often it can give entirely the wrong impression...but a little in the right place can go a very long way, in my experience. I keep myself well-groomed, but if my clothing isn't cutting-edge or terribly fashion-conscious...well I'm gonna be brutal here. If you're going to judge me badly for what I wear, I don't want to know you; that's shallow, you see, and bearing in mind the aforementioned points, I won't render any judgment on you if you're wearing, say, an old sweater that's got a frayed cuff, or if your hair's windblown and wild. Hell, sometimes that sort of thing can even add to the appeal...says, "I'm not my clothing. What's me is -inside these garments, so take me for who I am and not what I wear. I'm comfy with it, why aren't you?" So...I guess in essence I'm walking the fence. Presentability is good, good hygiene is key, but true fashion or high standards...are questionable.